Right now in my parenting Noel needs help with his impulse control. I was him as a kid and my parents parenting didn't help. At least not emotionally.
I keep thinking to get him evaluated but ultimately, that won't change anything - I won't put him on medication, I've seen the therapy and I think it's a joke, and I do not want to resort to punishment or physical aggression. So what else can I do? I think that learning to work with my children will help the most. But that's hard because I seem to get emotionally triggered when my kids are acting (impo) like normal kids. Or at least very strong willed ones.
When I was a kid - what did I need? I needed more support, more encouragement, to be taught more rather than punished, I needed to be hugged a hell of a lot more, I needed to feel seen and heard. Lailah is reminding me a lot of myself when I was a kid. And although, I removed the punishment and physical harm from my parenting I haven't supplemented with much else. I need to spend more time with her teaching her things that will help her in life. Which is hard for me to do right now because Noel's behavior can sometimes wipe me out emotionally and physically. Sometimes his meltdowns can be really hard. I'm pretty sure that if I just give him what he needs too that his behavior would improve. He needs a lot of play time. But I also need time for myself too.
I need to make a schedule that can include everything I need to do. Thankfully, my kids are getting along right now and Thea's not screaming so that I can write.
My anxiety is finally coming back down but I was feeling so anxious and overwhelmed that I felt like just snapping on my kids. But I knew I didn't want to so I reached out to Tom and then I asked my sister to come over. Moe did come over for a short while which did help a little bit but she had to leave.
I think if we learn to teach kids that assertive communication is easier and more effective that they'd choose that too. But how do we do that?
